I’m a bit of a superstitious person. I knock on wood when I don’t want to jinx something (and knock the side of my head when there’s no wood in sight). I never share my birthday wishes with anyone. And I’m very paranoid on birthdays. The headspace I’m in on my birthday and how I spend the day sets the tone for the year (at least, that’s how I feel) and as such as I’m super careful about my birthday plans.
Hitha, Birthday’s like that just suck! That said there are good moments that happened and you she cherish those. I was demoted and my husband threw me a surprise birthday party(I don’t like surprises) and I was in a boot cast with a torn Achilles. He brought in all my adult children, planned a dinner at a restaurant I loved, got me a gluten free birthday cake and planned an evening of Whirlyball with friends and family. I was in tears the whole weekend, raw with emotion and didn’t want to talk about why I was so upset. I wanted to crawl in a hole and be left along with my rage. I am grateful I have all these wonderful people in my life who wanted to celebrate me, that is what I take from that weekend. Turning 50 sucked but turning 52 and meeting my work goals and receiving a promotion was wonderful, I did it with the help of my people and those that love me.
Another vote for the birthday do over here. It's ok (even important) to wallow and to feel the yuck to the max, but hopefully that will free you up to get some fun in after the fact. Do whatever feels good: TV, a meal with friends, a masked matinee... It's your call and you totally earned it.
I never comment but since my birthday was also last week felt a lot of empathy. So sorry you are feeling so bad but it will pass. I spent the whole week of Christmas in FL locked in a room with my mom and sister who live abroad trying to stay away from me. But it worked didn’t get them sick. Regarding bday for sure you have to just celebrate a whole month so have plenty of time for a do over. And don’t sweat 38 I just turned 53! I had a low key day with my husband and son. Took the afternoon off and got a facial which turned out to be more medicinal than relaxing zen but good. Dinner with them at my favorite restaurant. Also went out to lunch with friends from work that week. Had loads of fun my cousins and danced all night long for the first time in a decade. Also met up with high school friends after 35 years. Last two years weee not celebrated with covid. So this year I am having s small bbq next week amd excited to have people over to celebrate for the first time in years. Just imagine it like an Indian wedding and celebrate at least a week. Just spend time with people you love. Friends, family, even classmates from long ago. Reconnect and fill yourself with love. Also trying to start meditating…
I am so sorry you took ill, Hitha. I had no idea. Hoping you are healing quickly and can properly celebrate YOU upon recovery. Love, Susan
Hitha, Birthday’s like that just suck! That said there are good moments that happened and you she cherish those. I was demoted and my husband threw me a surprise birthday party(I don’t like surprises) and I was in a boot cast with a torn Achilles. He brought in all my adult children, planned a dinner at a restaurant I loved, got me a gluten free birthday cake and planned an evening of Whirlyball with friends and family. I was in tears the whole weekend, raw with emotion and didn’t want to talk about why I was so upset. I wanted to crawl in a hole and be left along with my rage. I am grateful I have all these wonderful people in my life who wanted to celebrate me, that is what I take from that weekend. Turning 50 sucked but turning 52 and meeting my work goals and receiving a promotion was wonderful, I did it with the help of my people and those that love me.
Another vote for the birthday do over here. It's ok (even important) to wallow and to feel the yuck to the max, but hopefully that will free you up to get some fun in after the fact. Do whatever feels good: TV, a meal with friends, a masked matinee... It's your call and you totally earned it.
I never comment but since my birthday was also last week felt a lot of empathy. So sorry you are feeling so bad but it will pass. I spent the whole week of Christmas in FL locked in a room with my mom and sister who live abroad trying to stay away from me. But it worked didn’t get them sick. Regarding bday for sure you have to just celebrate a whole month so have plenty of time for a do over. And don’t sweat 38 I just turned 53! I had a low key day with my husband and son. Took the afternoon off and got a facial which turned out to be more medicinal than relaxing zen but good. Dinner with them at my favorite restaurant. Also went out to lunch with friends from work that week. Had loads of fun my cousins and danced all night long for the first time in a decade. Also met up with high school friends after 35 years. Last two years weee not celebrated with covid. So this year I am having s small bbq next week amd excited to have people over to celebrate for the first time in years. Just imagine it like an Indian wedding and celebrate at least a week. Just spend time with people you love. Friends, family, even classmates from long ago. Reconnect and fill yourself with love. Also trying to start meditating…